Someone's Opinion of You does not have to become your reality

Are you lazy, hopeless, timid, unlucky, untidy, mediocre, ordinary, slow in learning etc?

If you should have any negative beliefs about yourself, you got to start asking, who told you that?

One of the top motivation speakers, Les Brown was diagnosed to be mentally retarded when he was young. He was removed from the 5th grade and put into the 4th grade and proceeded on in life slower than "usual".

He walked into a classroom one day and was asked by the teacher to go to the board. Les Brown refused and told the teacher that he couldn't do it becasue he was mentally retarded. The teacher looked at him in the eye and said, "Don't ever say that again young man, Someone's Opinion of you does not have to become your reality."

That was a turning point in his life.

The First Step to Success: Knowing What you Want!

Thee are 5 principles of success derived from the traditional NLP teachings which is relevant up to today.

1) Know Your Outcome
Seems obvious isn't it? But the thing is most people do not know what they want. But most people want what they don't want. "We don't want our current job, our current boss, our current physical health, the piling debts etc."

Well, knowing what we do not want is actually a good first step, from there we will be able to derive what we really want.

So why is it important to know what we want?

Think about it, if we only know what we do not want, we are always running away from things. But if we do not know what we want, we are running away in a random direction. So chances are we will run to a place we may not want again.
But if we do know what we want, we can run towards that direction. Does it make sense?

2) Take Action
Ah ha! Feeling guilty already? Maybe, maybe not. People who know what they want, may not take action!!!
Why? Well, from my experience, it starts from some lousy beliefs... Listen and see if these sound familiar...

"Well, I got to be realistic... I got to pay my bills." "I will never be like him/her, they are born lucky with xxx talent or resouces..."

These are some of the internal conversation people have inside them EVERYDAY!

We will touch more on beliefs in a while. For now, understand that without actions, there will be no results! You already know that don't you?

3) Sensory Awareness: Know if you are getting results from your Actions!
We got to be aware if what we are doing is working or now. Some times, we just choose a particular action or strategy aiming for a particular goal and we become so engross in the stratgey that we forgot we what we want.

Remember a time you went dating with someone you love with the outcome of spending quality time? But along the way, the dating process didn't really work out and you become so engross with making it right that you forgot about the "quality time" outcome? So we got to be acute, or sharp with whether our actions are producing the results we want or not.

4) Behaviour Flexibility
What this really means is that once we are aware of the results of actions, we should change our behaviour or action until we achieve the results we want.

An expert in this area is a man named Thomas Edition. If he had not been an expert in this, we will probably be reading using candles...

5) Operate from physiology and psychology of Excellence
Sounds like a whole load of jargons! Do you ever remember a time when you wake up feeling lousy? For some, this feeling is recent!
But aren't there times you feel great waking up. Like when you are going for a holiday of your dreams?
These 2 different "states" do affect our ability to produce results, you would agree wouldn't you.

Imagine going for a presentation or even a date in a lousy "state". Compare this to entering the presentation room in a powerful, confident "state". In most cases, my gies would be that we all prefer to be in a great state and chances of getting the results we want in these states are much higher...

In NLP, state management is one fun and exicting area that we will touch on later.

So there we have the 5 principles of success. It has evolved since the beginning of times, and personally, i have no qualms about these issues, as long as it produce results and help empower people who use it.

2009 Focused Goals

Below are the set of Specific Goals i am commited to achieve for 2009.

I used my personal method of S.O.A.R (Specific Results, Obstacles, Action Plan and Reason) to set these goals.

Spiritual Goals 2009

Specific Result
Complete Bible Reading in a Year
Count my Blessings Everyday
Pray Everyday
Weekly Bible Verse Sharing with Wife (Sundays)

Obstacles
Field camps

Solution: Bring bible and journal along in a waterproof bag

Action Plan
Get a journal
Print Bible Reading Plan – chunk it down
Communicate with wife this goal

Reason for Goal
Grow closer to God, let God be a partner in running my life
Understand God’s word better so I can live purposefully and I can share God’s love with people.

Physical Goals 2009

Specific Result
<10>Obstacles
Food, snacks
Field Camps


Solution:
Choose Healthier snacks - fruits
Eat lesser during meals to compensate for snacks

Action Plan
Exercise
- Gym 2 times per week
- Cardio Exercise (Run/ Cycle/ Swim) 2 times a week
- Pilates (To stretch and grow taller and leaner)

Nutrition
- 1 Cheat day per week only
- Eat lesser carbo and fats
- Choose healthier snack (incantation: Nothing taste as good as FIT)

Get a weekly monitoring chart

Reason for Goal
Look good for confidence
Look good to inspire soldiers, friends.
Got to take care of temple of God
Feel good for more energy to work towards other Goals

Family (Wife) Goals 2009

Specific Result
Grow Spiritual by sharing bible verse once a week
Grow in Relationship by dating once every fortnight
Grow physically by getting wife in a sport or exercise (Pilates) after her confinement period

Obstacles
House work
Children
Fieldcamps /SAF stuff

Solution:
Come up with a routine for house work
- Saturday Morning Weekly Cleaning
- Childcare centre/ Parents and in laws
Finish up SAF Stuff within 3 days whenever task is issued.


Action Plan
Print bible reading plan for wife
Fortnightly dating
- Show appreciation using 5 love language strategy
o Acts of Service (Massage/ Housework)
o Gifts (Small cards, flowers etc)
o Quality Time (Dating)
o Physical Touch (Massage)
o Words of Affirmation (Cards, SMS)

Start looking out for exercise that will interest wife
- Pilates
- Yoga
- Volleyball

Organise beach out party in July and Dec so she (and me) will be motivated to work out.

Reason for Goal
She is the most important person to me and I need to help her grow and also grow our relationship to be a fun loving and romantic one.

Family (Son) Goals 2009

Specific Result
Spend 15 min of quality focused time with son everyday I am home.
Read at least 1 book a month on how to be a better parent/ father and use at least one lesson learn.

Obstacles
Tired
Field Camps

Solution:
Get myself in State (think of missing him in Australia)
Compensate using OIL and weekends.


Action Plan
Prepare a list of activities to do with him
- Reading
- Sports
- Shicida Methods
o ESP
o Linking Memory
o Flash Cards
o Story Telling (Speed reading)
o Singing
o Alphabets
- Games

Reason for Goal
So that we will have a really great relationship.
I want to be his friend, mentor, coach.

Personal Development Goals 2009

Specific Result
Become a Trainer by Dec 2009
– Achieve Certified Professional Trainer Certificate
– Start Training as a Trainer by Dec 2009

Master NLP by Dec 2009
– Be NLP Master Practitioner Certified by Dec 2009


Obstacles
Time
SAF
Cost

Solution:
On Job Training
Start Giving Seminars in Camp
Use NLP on soldiers

Action Plan
Take Course
- ACTA
- Mastery Asia
- NLP
o Vasnath
o POE by AKLTG

- Start sending resume to training companies

Reason for Goal
To become a great communicator to share ideas and knowledge to empower people to live a great passionate life

Financial Goals 2009

Specific Result
Development financial muscles to create passive/non SAF income of $10k/month by Dec 2009

Obstacles
Time
SAF
Lack of Focus

Solution:
Magnifying glass theory
Time management

Action Plan
Trading
- Journal and Post Every Trade
- Follow Trading Plan – Trade Beautifully
- Daily Trading and Practice using Past Data
- Journal (Print Charts and Comments)
- Post Trades on Blog and Forum
- Weekly Analysis (On Saturday Morning)


Options Sales Strategy
• Sell CALL/ PUT based on Buffet’s Stocks
• Do monthly updates and research
• No impulse actions during trades – wait for options to expire

Trading Tuition
• AIM: $3500 per month ($700 X 5)
• Find a Place
• CC?
• Home Tuition?
• Send Pamphlet
• Letterbox
• House to House
• Cars
• Lifts

Edu Biz
AIM: $3000 per month

Reason for Goal
I want the financial muscles to achieve Freedom and Abundance.
I want to achieve it at a young age (before 30 years old) so that I can have a lifestyle that is God and Family Center.
I want to achieve it fast so that I can give to my parents and in-laws so that they can enjoy life!